Lowered expectations

I thought of this week’s #thankyouthursday in the middle of the night.

I was getting back to sleep after feeding B, and the perfect topic floated into my head, along with a fully formed opening sentence. It was pretty good, if I remember right.

Except, I don’t remember.

I didn’t have the energy to get back up and write anything down, and this morning I have no clue what it was that came to me, only that something did and now it’s gone.

So! Moving on.

This #thankyouthursday, I am grateful for lowered expectations, because it is just plain impossible for me to accomplish everything my brain says I “should,” and unrealistic expectations are the fastest way for me to feel like a failure, which quickly leads to self-loathing, which quickly leads to despair, and I just do not like to go there.

My current solution is to set three daily goals, max. Yesterday one of them was to take a shower.

These goals are in addition to my nonnegotiable needs and responsibilities, and while it’s okay if I don’t meet them, I feel better when I do.

Today one of my goals is to send out #thankyouthursday, and as an example of how I’m lowering the bar, I’m not going to edit this or try to come up with a nice closing.

I’ll just ask you to consider what a few easy wins might be for you today, and I’ll encourage you to go after them—or not. Either way, we’re all okay.

Love > fear,
Christina