Advice from a Loving Bitch
This #thankyouthursday, I am grateful for Advice from a Loving Bitch, which is a YouTube series as well as a full-on curriculum developed by Rythea Lee.
I learned of Rythea’s existence only about a month ago, and she is currently rising in popularity for her TikTok videos on conscious and non-coercive parenting—aka the way I wish every human had been raised, and the way I strive to parent.
But parenting videos are just the newest iteration of her core message, which is also in the opening jingle to Advice from a Loving Bitch: “turn self-hate to love, that’s my pitch.”
UM. WOW. If you’ve been reading #thankyouthursday for any length of time, and/or, hopefully if you’ve known me in real life for any length of time, you know that reducing self-hate is MY core intention as well.
In fact, I’ve often asserted that if we did not have self-hate, we’d have world peace. Because when people feel genuinely attuned to and comfortable with the innate goodness of their beings, they just don’t do shitty things. Or when they do, they apologize, atone, make amends, etc. In other words, self-loving people make peace.
However, despite my deep conviction that increased self-love is the key to everything good, I have yet to publicly devote my life and career to promoting concrete ways of reducing self-hate. But you know who’s actively on it? A loving bitch named Rythea Lee, and as I’ve binge-watched her YouTube series this week, I’ve been repeatedly flooded with relief and gratitude.
I love how honest and free-wheeling and kinda weird her work is. I love how I recognize truth and depth in every sentence she shares. I love how in Episode 8 she includes teenagers and their experiences, and how in Episode 13 she expresses her own history with poetic beauty. I love that she gives assignments at the end of every episode.
This week has been challenging, but I am truly okay, and part of why I am so sure is because I’ve been reminded that my self-hating voice is not alone (Episode 3) and that connection and support are always available (Episode 18). Consequently, I’ve been reaching out, asking for help, receiving help, allowing for rest. It’s really the best.
Love> fear,
Christina
p.s. In case it’s not obvious from this enthusiastic endorsement, I highly recommend consuming and sharing Advice from a Loving Bitch.